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McConnell, Kane Vast and I have been really slacking on these podcasts–the coronavirus has caused us all to make many adjustments to our lives in 2020 and those continue this year in 2021.

We’ll probably talk about that stuff in a future podcast episode. We’ve already recorded the next podcast which is an interview with Aaron Darko of HealthMastery.com who you can find on Instagram. So keep a lookout for that soon too.

Kane goes pretty in depth about getting your woman onto threesomes, and we give some updates on how the dating scene has been during corona-time and more including:

• How do women think about threesomes
• Reframing threesomes so girls will try it
• Ideal relationship frames and dynamic
• The power of positive reinforcement
• Why developing your sex skills is an easy win
• Use your skill stack to make your relationship better
• How qualification makes picking up and dating easier
• The emotional elements of being good at sex
• How have travel restrictions affected the dating market
• Guy gets caught texting another girl and improves his relationship
• How has coronavirus affected the dating scene in major Asian cities?
• How prevalent is birth control in Asia?
• How common are sexless marriages in Asia?
• Is it good to be a “player”?
• What is a pickup artist to do during corona time?
• Quadrant II: what it is, and why you should focus on it
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

Male Chastity Belt (Not Safe For Work)

https://www.google.com/search?q=male+chastity+belt&rlz=1C1GCEA_enTW797TW797&sxsrf=ALeKk012V5jGOugMyo4v8b905hQcKm6u1w:1619865381677&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwi8j6LlpKjwAhVYyYsBHQv3BsMQ_AUoAnoECAEQBA&biw=1280&bih=610

Urgent-Important Matrix

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People

Sexless Japan

Sexless Japan – Really?

Conan the Barbarian – The Wheel of Pain

Dark Knight Rises

Sisyphus

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sisyphus

Angry Fire Video

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McConnell, Kane Vast and I sat down to discuss Rollo Tomassi’s “The Red Pill Lessons of Will Smith,” an episode of his podcast where he discusses the Will Smith and Jada Pinckett-Smith “cheating” scandal. And I put cheating in quotation marks because they were separated at the time, but more on that in the podcast.

It was a great conversation that got pretty emotional at times and hearing McConnell get all worked up was a big part of the fun:

• The manosphere and what it is
• structured game vs natural game
• outer game vs inner game
• The red pill
• female nature vs environment and technology
• Men’s rights activists
• The internet echo chamber
• MGTOW and why you should stay away from women
• Incels
• Why you should love feminists and they are the best thing to ever happen to men
• Real life vs internet life
• The chad Alpha >> Beta and the problems with red pill thinking
• Find a dominance hierarchy you can succeed in
• Blue pill
• Choose your own value structure
• Who has the sexual power?
• Do guys want to have sex with their wives?
• Female privilege and double standards
• Feminists are wrong…not all societies need them
• Were the 1950s the best time?
• Men get so screwed by the legal system
• You can determine how your relationships are by how you setup your life
• Why you should create your own rules
• Always seek to make your life better
• The problem with hyphenated last names
• #1 question: are you getting what you want?

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Mentioned in this session:

mLTR

https://www.pickupasia.com/useful-terms-and-terminology/#LTRmLTR

Structured Game

Basics

The Chad

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chad_(slang)

The Red Pill Wiki

(check the links in the sidebar)

https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp/

Elliott Rodgers

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2014_Isla_Vista_killings

Cuckold

https://quod.lib.umich.edu/m/middle-english-dictionary/dictionary/MED8342

Alpha

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alpha_(ethology)

Jordon Peterson on Dominance Hierarchies

Bill Burr – Epidemic of Gold Digging Whores

Jordan Peterson on Spicing Up Your Sex Life

Ideological Possession

NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming

Crazy Stupid Love

Johnny Depp

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-53347044

Family Registers

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Koseki#Family_registries_in_other_nations

The Gervais Principle

https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-principle-or-the-office-according-to-the-office/

“I fuck…hard.”

The Myth of the Middle Class Alpha Male

PDF Download link

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McConnell and I sat down with a special guest, Sona, who has been living in Taiwan for 14 years, and is so plugged into the culture that he runs a Chinese YouTube channel with over 177,000 subscribers where he talks about Chinese and American hip-hop music and culture, runs a chain of Parkour schools and has been in several movies.

It’s a great conversation where we cover everything from slang and language learning to parkour to the local Taiwanese dating scene:

• weird Chinese slang: the meaning of “cow cunt” and “good dick”
• learning Chinese
• Sona’s origin story”
• A man must go on a quest, and my quest will be THERE!”
• DJing around Asia
• Acting in Asia
• Building a Parkour business in Taiwan
• Korean hustle
• The Taiwan dating (horror) scene
• RedpoleQ’s scummy dating stories
• Is it you or do Taiwanese girls suck?
• Having standards and setting boundaries to have a sustainable relationship
• Teach people how to treat youTaiwanese girls gone wild: temper tantrums
• Be willing to lose someone great in the name of your own self-respect
• Taiwanese girls and their crazy expectations
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

Sona

https://www.youtube.com/c/%E5%A5%BD%E6%A9%9F%E8%BB%8A/videos

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrLMV4ZtcHhVSTZpChhu0TQ/videos

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BTS_Skytrain

Z-108

Scott Adkins

https://youtu.be/5n9t46-O3Kw

The Yamakasi

The Kong Vault

Meth Mouth

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Meth_mouth

No Retreat, No Surrender

https://youtu.be/meq3Dn3TNs8

Nike Chicken Commercial

Jump London

The Beige Philip Show

Home

CP Time

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colored_people%27s_time

Shaft Clip

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1tzkAkmC9z0GClcaMA0XXuG0wCFY-qvSa/view?usp=sharing

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Kane, McConnell and I sat down to discuss the book, The Truth, by Neil Strauss where he talks about how he was able to hang up his player, pickup artist shoes and choose monogamy and marriage.

It’s a great book, well worth reading and there is so much to unpack and learn from and plenty to think about including:

• How to lay down a great routine
• DHV – Display of Higher Value
• American ideas about sex, dating and relationships
• Let the girls get ready instead of encouraging them to be ugly
• Western delusions about sex and relationships
• The post-consent dating world of Tinder
• Why dating apps are not your friend
• Sex addiction…is it a real thing?
• The dangers of porn and masturbation
• Is it trauma or is it life?
• Successful enough to fail rather vs failing enough to be successful
• Bandaids for your dating lives and how to avoid them
• It’s important to make your sexual fantasies come true
• Rules vs intents in relationships
• Compersion – Is it possible to enjoy your partner’s sexual pleasure with someone else?
• Swinger’s parties and the many ways to enjoy them
• Relationship Management and how to do it all wrong
• To live your fantasies, you have to think practically
• Is being divorced with kids, the best life?
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

Gabby Reece Interview with Neil Strauss

https://www.gabriellereece.com/the-gabby-reece-show-episode-3-neil-strauss/

DHV – Display of High Value

https://www.pickupasia.com/useful-terms-and-terminology/#DHV

We Discuss “Our Inner Ape”

We Discuss “Our Inner Ape”

Our Inner Ape – Part 2

Bill Burr – “Absolutely Reprehensible Behavior!”

Lane Bryant “Plus Size”

Is There A Connection Between Childhood Abuse and Sexuality?

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3535560/

Yes, monkey’s do masturbate and so do many other animals…

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Non-reproductive_sexual_behavior_in_animals

Jordan Peterson on How Women Expose Your Inadequacies

Jordan Peterson on Spicing Up Your Sex Life

American Pie and the Glorification of MILFs

https://youtu.be/IzD-cPcGBoU

Stacy’s Mom

Other Books By Neil Strauss

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Compersion

American Psycho Is More Psycho Than I Remember…

https://youtu.be/eWNHfw9W5aQ

Elli on Her Open Marriage

Elli on Her Open Marriage

Introducing Chris Smoove!

https://www.youtube.com/user/Smoove7182954

“Yeah, yeah, yeah! SPIDER-MAAAAAAAN!!!”

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Kane, McConnell and I sat down with VONNY LANG to catch up on her new new lifestyle–monogamy and marriage! Who would have thought?

The usual whackiness ensues in this podcast, including:

• Open minded dinner parties
• Naked yoga
• Vonny’s matchmaking
• Fire breath orgasm
• How she met her husband aka Superman
• Don’t let your ego stop you from getting the women you want
• Vonny’s road to monogamy
• Jealousy is healthy feeling
• Muse Vonny inspires “love” poems
• Who licks pussy better, men or women?
• How to know you’re ready for marriage
• What’s so great about marriage?
• A pep talk from Vonny
• Let’s talk about monogamy
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

Vonny Lang’s Play Party World

Vonny Lang’s Swinging Lifestyle

Vonny’s Turned-On Events

https://turned-on.mn.co

The Wheel of Time

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Wheel_of_Time

Ta’Veren

https://wot.fandom.com/wiki/Ta%27veren

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I sat down with Kane and McConnell to answer questions from a Japan Lair member who is just getting started with women and has a lot of fundamental misunderstandings and internal conflicts about women, dating and sex.

In addition we answered some questions from other listeners as well, and talked about a WIIIIIIIIIDE variety of topics including:

• How do I avoid gold diggers and money wasters?
• I want to find a nice, pure girl. Any tips?
• Why you shouldn’t sleep with “easy” girls
• I’m a virgin, what should you do?
• Any tips on avoiding ladyboys, shemales and transgenders?
• I’m not white, do I still have a chance with East Asian girls?
• What are the easiest places to meet Asian girls in Asia?
• How to guarantee that girls will lie and take advantage of you
• The 3 things that could be standing in your way of success with women
• Why you may need to stop being you
• Why you need to be around who you want to become
• What to do when a girl sees your messages with another girl
• How to keep both girls happy after a 3-some
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

The WRONG Holy Grail

Conan the Barbarian

Cock-a-too

https://www.facebook.com/CockatooLadyboyBar/?rf=308647199234914

GSM

https://globalseoulmates.com/

Brass Monkey Taipei Language Exchange

https://www.brassmonkeytaipei.com/event/item/1152-language-exchange-meetup

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

What Do Women Want? by Daniel Bergner

How to Think More about Sex by Alain de Botton

Marriage, A History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz

The Female Brain by Louann Brizendine

The meaning of the phoenix and why parts of you have to die so you can move on

PickUp Asia Course List

https://www.pickupasia.com/courses/

https://www.pickupasia.com/courses/

PickUp Asia YouTube Channel

https://youtube.com/pickupasia

3somes: 2 Girls and YOU and How to Make It Happen

PickUp Asia Forums

https://pickupasia.com/forums/

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I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics. We talk more about relationships, the idea of “open” relationships, how to stay young and relevant, and of course share wacky stories from our past.

In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including:

• How to be a black male in Korea
• Do you really want an “open” relationship?
• Friends with benefits, girlfriends and other arrangements…
• Is communication about everything always the best way?
• Adventures in compersion
• “Mimes are the bagels of entertainment.”
• Offline to online shift
• The secret to staying young
• Why young people don’t respect older people and how you can avoid that
• As an older guy, the pitfalls to avoid to keep smashing young puss, lols!
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

“Why does everyone always laugh when I say that?!”

What is NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)?

The Bagel of Entertainment

The Critical Drinker Reviews Joker

Dr. Evil on Staying Young and Relevant

Louis CK on Fun After 40

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I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics, especially how to manage dating multiple people. We talk about the pitfalls, what to avoid, what to do to keep things from getting too messy and OF COURSE share some stories.

In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including:

• Christmas in Japan
• Girls touching themselves and getting a hard pounding
• Multiple orgasms
• How and why to be tough on yourself but compassionate with other people
• Game giving you a bigger toolkit and a bigger toolkit can fix more issues
• Girls dating multiple guys
• How live streaming is like dating
• Find out if guys really cheat more than girls do
• McConnell’s fellatio taxi and fellatio cinema double feature!
• Why you should ask why first
• How to PROACTIVELY manage your relationships
• Girls can be annoying when they really like you
• Look out for those “yes ladders,” they’re a slipper slope to hell
• How telling the truth can get you into trouble
• McConnell’s trixy tactic
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

The OG PickUp Bible:

For the Young Bloods:

Japanese Girls in Santa Outfits!

Bulls and Cucks

https://www.kinkly.com/definition/17110/bull-cuckolding

Rambo!

https://www.pickupasia.com/art-and-science-of-sex/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genghis_Khan

Big 5 Personality Traits

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits

The Skin I Live In

Jordan Peterson on Multiple Orgasms

Viktor Frankl

https://www.instagram.com/p/B2wKC7JggY2/

Eddie Murphy

https://youtu.be/g6h1IP7eYiU

Survivorship Bias

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Survivorship_bias

Fellatio Japan

https://www.fellatiojapan.com/

Pit Bull aka Mr. Worldwide

Colombo Interrogation

Micro Expressions

Clerks – “How Many Dicks Have You Sucked?”

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In the last podcast we discussed how marriage affects pickup and this time when I sat down with McConnell and Kane we discuss the role of “side-pieces” in marriage and relationships and what the pros and cons are.

As usual the conversation went on a lot of different bizarre, educational and hilarious tangents and you’ll learn why we think that having a side-piece is so advantageous in many relationships, including:

• The practical aspects of having a side piece
• Mini-side ho holidays keep you sane
• A great way to cure your scarcity
• Don’t think with your emotions
• Why and when to use a “safe word”
• Gives men leverage in the relationship
• Side girl makes you appreciate your main girl more
• Be a man with a plan
• Developing your relationship guidebook
• Date more people to get more relationship experience
• Now what you will and won’t compromise on
• Is it weird not to want to get married and be single forever?
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

Our Interview with Ellie:

Elli on Her Open Marriage

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem

https://www.pickupasia.com/the-shadow-knows-part-i/

What McConnell Is Packing:

More Than You Ever Wanted to Know about Pegging

https://www.reddit.com/r/RandomActsOfPegging/

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I sat down with McConnell and Kane to discuss how marriage impacts dating and relationships and all the various setups possible and then we dive into a discussion of Tinder that was sparked by an interview with Jordan Peterson on Femsplainers (linked below).

We also spent some time talking about the book, Selfie, which was a book club book for our Approach Mastery boot camp alumni that charts the evolution of the ideal self from the Greeks until the present moment of personal development, and even throws in some comparisons with Asia for good measure!

As usual the conversation went on a lot of different bizarre, educational and hilarious tangents and you’ll learn why we think Online game is bad for men, including:

• Who McConnell would trade lives with
• Kane’s marriage setup (Yup, he’s married!)
• How to decide what you want then plan for the worst to get the best
• Why it’s harder to make changes in marriage than when you’re dating
• Kane on turbulence theory
• How online game makes men weaker and women cheaper
• How girls can use Tinder to their advantage
• That great pictures can get you laid, but it’s great social skills that get you a relationship
• How women miss out on valuable social experience because of Tinder
• How to be the best human you can be according to western civilization
• The cutting edge of personality research—The Big 5 Personality Traits—model as a key and a map to yourself and others
• and a whole lot more…

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Mentioned in this session:

The Young Cub Gets Topped

When Girls Go Head to Head and Adventures in S&M

Our Interview with Ellie:

Elli on Her Open Marriage

Yumi From MySiliconeLoveDoll.com

Call Her Daddy

https://www.barstoolsports.com/shows/call-her-daddy

The Problems with Tinder – Jordan Peterson

Hannibal – Silence of the Lambs

Hannibal: the Original OG and Scourge of Rome

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hannibal

Selfie by Will Storr

Interviewed on the You Are Not So Smart Podcast

Get the Book!

The Big 5 Personality Traits

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_Five_personality_traits

Take the Test!

http://understandmyself.com

Myers-Briggs

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers%E2%80%93Briggs_Type_Indicator

Enneagrams

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enneagram_of_Personality

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