McConnell, Kane Vast and I have been really slacking on these podcasts–the coronavirus has caused us all to make many adjustments to our lives in 2020 and those continue this year in 2021.
We’ll probably talk about that stuff in a future podcast episode. We’ve already recorded the next podcast which is an interview with Aaron Darko of HealthMastery.com who you can find on Instagram. So keep a lookout for that soon too.
Kane goes pretty in depth about getting your woman onto threesomes, and we give some updates on how the dating scene has been during corona-time and more including:
How do women think about threesomes
Reframing threesomes so girls will try it
Ideal relationship frames and dynamic
The power of positive reinforcement
Why developing your sex skills is an easy win
Use your skill stack to make your relationship better
How qualification makes picking up and dating easier
The emotional elements of being good at sex
How have travel restrictions affected the dating market
Guy gets caught texting another girl and improves his relationship
How has coronavirus affected the dating scene in major Asian cities?
How prevalent is birth control in Asia?
How common are sexless marriages in Asia?
Is it good to be a “player”?
What is a pickup artist to do during corona time?
Quadrant II: what it is, and why you should focus on it
McConnell, Kane Vast and I sat down to discuss Rollo Tomassi’s “The Red Pill Lessons of Will Smith,” an episode of his podcast where he discusses the Will Smith and Jada Pinckett-Smith “cheating” scandal. And I put cheating in quotation marks because they were separated at the time, but more on that in the podcast.
It was a great conversation that got pretty emotional at times and hearing McConnell get all worked up was a big part of the fun:
The manosphere and what it is
structured game vs natural game
outer game vs inner game
The red pill
female nature vs environment and technology
Men’s rights activists
The internet echo chamber
MGTOW and why you should stay away from women
Incels
Why you should love feminists and they are the best thing to ever happen to men
Real life vs internet life
The chad Alpha >> Beta and the problems with red pill thinking
Find a dominance hierarchy you can succeed in
Blue pill
Choose your own value structure
Who has the sexual power?
Do guys want to have sex with their wives?
Female privilege and double standards
Feminists are wrong…not all societies need them
Were the 1950s the best time?
Men get so screwed by the legal system
You can determine how your relationships are by how you setup your life
McConnell and I sat down with a special guest, Sona, who has been living in Taiwan for 14 years, and is so plugged into the culture that he runs a Chinese YouTube channel with over 177,000 subscribers where he talks about Chinese and American hip-hop music and culture, runs a chain of Parkour schools and has been in several movies.
It’s a great conversation where we cover everything from slang and language learning to parkour to the local Taiwanese dating scene:
weird Chinese slang: the meaning of “cow cunt” and “good dick”
learning Chinese
Sona’s origin story”
A man must go on a quest, and my quest will be THERE!”
DJing around Asia
Acting in Asia
Building a Parkour business in Taiwan
Korean hustle
The Taiwan dating (horror) scene
RedpoleQ’s scummy dating stories
Is it you or do Taiwanese girls suck?
Having standards and setting boundaries to have a sustainable relationship
Teach people how to treat youTaiwanese girls gone wild: temper tantrums
Be willing to lose someone great in the name of your own self-respect
Kane, McConnell and I sat down to discuss the book, The Truth, by Neil Strauss where he talks about how he was able to hang up his player, pickup artist shoes and choose monogamy and marriage.
It’s a great book, well worth reading and there is so much to unpack and learn from and plenty to think about including:
How to lay down a great routine
DHV – Display of Higher Value
American ideas about sex, dating and relationships
Let the girls get ready instead of encouraging them to be ugly
Western delusions about sex and relationships
The post-consent dating world of Tinder
Why dating apps are not your friend
Sex addiction…is it a real thing?
The dangers of porn and masturbation
Is it trauma or is it life?
Successful enough to fail rather vs failing enough to be successful
Bandaids for your dating lives and how to avoid them
It’s important to make your sexual fantasies come true
Rules vs intents in relationships
Compersion – Is it possible to enjoy your partner’s sexual pleasure with someone else?
Swinger’s parties and the many ways to enjoy them
Relationship Management and how to do it all wrong
To live your fantasies, you have to think practically
I sat down with Kane and McConnell to answer questions from a Japan Lair member who is just getting started with women and has a lot of fundamental misunderstandings and internal conflicts about women, dating and sex.
In addition we answered some questions from other listeners as well, and talked about a WIIIIIIIIIDE variety of topics including:
How do I avoid gold diggers and money wasters?
I want to find a nice, pure girl. Any tips?
Why you shouldn’t sleep with “easy” girls
I’m a virgin, what should you do?
Any tips on avoiding ladyboys, shemales and transgenders?
I’m not white, do I still have a chance with East Asian girls?
What are the easiest places to meet Asian girls in Asia?
How to guarantee that girls will lie and take advantage of you
The 3 things that could be standing in your way of success with women
Why you may need to stop being you
Why you need to be around who you want to become
What to do when a girl sees your messages with another girl
I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics. We talk more about relationships, the idea of “open” relationships, how to stay young and relevant, and of course share wacky stories from our past.
In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including:
How to be a black male in Korea
Do you really want an “open” relationship?
Friends with benefits, girlfriends and other arrangements…
Is communication about everything always the best way?
Adventures in compersion
“Mimes are the bagels of entertainment.”
Offline to online shift
The secret to staying young
Why young people don’t respect older people and how you can avoid that
As an older guy, the pitfalls to avoid to keep smashing young puss, lols!
I sat down with Kane and McConnell to talk about a wide variety of topics, especially how to manage dating multiple people. We talk about the pitfalls, what to avoid, what to do to keep things from getting too messy and OF COURSE share some stories.
In addition to that, we talked about some of our sexual preferences, some relevant personal development concepts, and of course we talked about, “game” including:
Christmas in Japan
Girls touching themselves and getting a hard pounding
Multiple orgasms
How and why to be tough on yourself but compassionate with other people
Game giving you a bigger toolkit and a bigger toolkit can fix more issues
Girls dating multiple guys
How live streaming is like dating
Find out if guys really cheat more than girls do
McConnell’s fellatio taxi and fellatio cinema double feature!
Why you should ask why first
How to PROACTIVELY manage your relationships
Girls can be annoying when they really like you
Look out for those “yes ladders,” they’re a slipper slope to hell
In the last podcast we discussed how marriage affects pickup and this time when I sat down with McConnell and Kane we discuss the role of “side-pieces” in marriage and relationships and what the pros and cons are.
As usual the conversation went on a lot of different bizarre, educational and hilarious tangents and you’ll learn why we think that having a side-piece is so advantageous in many relationships, including:
The practical aspects of having a side piece
Mini-side ho holidays keep you sane
A great way to cure your scarcity
Don’t think with your emotions
Why and when to use a “safe word”
Gives men leverage in the relationship
Side girl makes you appreciate your main girl more
Be a man with a plan
Developing your relationship guidebook
Date more people to get more relationship experience
Now what you will and won’t compromise on
Is it weird not to want to get married and be single forever?
I sat down with McConnell and Kane to discuss how marriage impacts dating and relationships and all the various setups possible and then we dive into a discussion of Tinder that was sparked by an interview with Jordan Peterson on Femsplainers (linked below).
We also spent some time talking about the book, Selfie, which was a book club book for our Approach Mastery boot camp alumni that charts the evolution of the ideal self from the Greeks until the present moment of personal development, and even throws in some comparisons with Asia for good measure!
As usual the conversation went on a lot of different bizarre, educational and hilarious tangents and you’ll learn why we think Online game is bad for men, including:
Who McConnell would trade lives with
Kane’s marriage setup (Yup, he’s married!)
How to decide what you want then plan for the worst to get the best
Why it’s harder to make changes in marriage than when you’re dating
Kane on turbulence theory
How online game makes men weaker and women cheaper
How girls can use Tinder to their advantage
That great pictures can get you laid, but it’s great social skills that get you a relationship
How women miss out on valuable social experience because of Tinder
How to be the best human you can be according to western civilization
The cutting edge of personality research—The Big 5 Personality Traits—model as a key and a map to yourself and others